Sunday, March 12, 2006

Hello There

Good Afternoon, Some people have commented that I have been absent from the blog. In fact I read it many times a day and have been very busy with the cruises to Alaska, which are looking great, (super great in fact) as well as some personal things. I am working now on the Newsletter.
By definition a blog will have a lot of back and forth. That's the idea. And some people may consider it boring, well that's their right. As long as something is not offensive, or inaccurate, or mean-spirited, or the like, I think there should be controversy.
I would suggest that some comments might be more suited to being related directly via e-mail versus the blog. But on balance, I think most of the comments are interesting to many people. And it's like television. If you don't like it, change the channel.
Best wishes to all (even the "bored" folks). Richard Roe


dreamweaver18 said...

Hello RICHness!
Thank you for your positive input as usual!
Nice to 'see' you again
senior bachelorette:)

Sunday, March 12, 2006 1:11:05 PM  
Debbie said...

Hey Richard, as you wanted some kind of "discussion/topics/"excitement",here's one for "all of you"...(and I include myself in this)...

WHY is it that when hearing of someone else's "not so hot" relationship, WE have ALL the right answers, AND when WE'RE in a relationship - everyone else KNOWS all the faults and yet WE don't see them...

What's with that???

Sunday, March 12, 2006 1:57:52 PM  
wanderlust said...

Now there is a good subject, why do we see someone elses problems in a relationship, when we don't see our own?
We are all good sideline coaches.
When it comes to the opposite sex, we just don't have or make any sense.
When I look at my behavior a couple years later, I often wonder "what did I see in him/ her?" Why was THAT so important?
Its' a good thing that time does heal, or at least makes us "more reasonable".

Sunday, March 12, 2006 2:20:44 PM  
Richard Roe- Senior Bachelor said...

Debbie, Isn't love "blind."????????

Sunday, March 12, 2006 2:25:06 PM  
Debbie said...

Well - I thought that's WHY we got prescription glasses!!!

Sunday, March 12, 2006 2:47:13 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

There is no recipe for love per se, the lessons seem to come through the experience and then in retrospect we look back and hopefully 'get it'! It is not always easy to 'see' oneself clearly, we are so pre-occupied with finding fault in the next person and so it is with love!
I think the first step on the road to having a lasting, fullfilling relationship is to recognise the above! It is so very interesting that we are able to see clearly into someone elses relationship!
Maybe we need to take a good hard look at ourselves and the 'mirror' image that we see in our partner.
If we are alone then all the more, we need to take a good, hard, honest look within!

Sunday, March 12, 2006 2:50:03 PM  
ineedsomeRnR said...

hello richard love is blind deaf and dumb but well worth the journey. take care

Sunday, March 12, 2006 3:04:49 PM  
Debbie said...


necessarily!!! (and forgive me - if I picked that particular comment to jump on...) JUST CALL ME SENSITIVE!!!

Okay - I'll cool off now - and get back to you with something introspective and enlightening...

Unless others would care to do that!!!


Sunday, March 12, 2006 3:06:51 PM  
JosieM said...

Debbie, I think with love, what to us may be "endearing qualities" may be "annoying habits" to others. And sometimes what we first see as endearing qualities can soon become annoying habits, and then we know we have fallen out of love. It's also more difficult as people get older and set in their ways, to make concessions for other people. I would love to be in a relationship, as long as he lived down the block, and not in my house. But most of the fellows I know want "all or nothing". It's such a fine line to tread. And then there is always the factor of "seeing ourselves as others see us". We may have annoying habits that we are not aware of as well. But if he makes your heart skip a beat when he walks into the room, that's pretty much all you need to know.

Sunday, March 12, 2006 3:29:28 PM  
JanieGirl said...

Hello, This is a very interesting subject. Val hit the nail right on the head. When we take a long hard look at ourselves and "Go Back Home" so to speak, that sometimes answers many questions about why a certain relationship did not work. Love is blind, love makes one foolish at times, but it is "Better to Have Loved and Lost, Than to Have Never Loved at All". Lady Jayne

Sunday, March 12, 2006 3:53:54 PM  
showgirl said...

Wow..All it took was a little upfront and honest critisism and This blog is "on a roll" again..
Josiem...You"ve got b***s...
Thanks for agreeing outloud...Look what We started....
debbie.....Great topic...
The responces are very intriguing and entertaining..LOL..
Richard...Channel searching was good today...I like that.

Sunday, March 12, 2006 4:10:38 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Just listening to the song 'AT LAST' sung by Etta Jones, this rendition is Glen Miller born 102 years ago today in Iowa, U.S.A.
Coincedentally the words 'my heart is wrapped in clover' appropriate for the upcoming St. Patrick's Day! :)

JANIEGIRL: you are right on the button with 'better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all' yep, this is the M.A.S...The Mutual Admiration Society kickin' in here!
senior bachelorette:)

Sunday, March 12, 2006 6:30:31 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

ooops Etta James

Sunday, March 12, 2006 6:31:10 PM  
JanieGirl said...

Hi Val, I wish I could claim those words as my own, but they are not original to me. I read them many years ago and cannot remember who said them. MERRY MARY, Good luck with your bunionectomoy (sp?) tomorrow. Will be thinkning of you. Let us know how you are doing. Be certain to have the surgeon where a shamrock in his lapel.
Lady Jayne

Sunday, March 12, 2006 8:22:27 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Don't greet your man with your hair all in curlers
You'll never see him again
'Cause Wives should always be Lovers too
Run to his arms the moment he comes home to you be continued

Sunday, March 12, 2006 8:28:21 PM  
wanderlust said...


Sunday, March 12, 2006 10:37:24 PM  
JanieGirl said...

Merry Merry, I meant to type "have the doctor WEAR a shamrock in his lapel, NOT WHERE. Goodness gracious, I can't spell anymore. Will they be putting you to sleep for the bunion removal? Take Care My Friend..... O'Lady Jayne

Monday, March 13, 2006 5:12:52 AM  
formerqueensgal said...

The love of my life passed away 7 years ago, after 39 years of marriage. We had our share of good times and bad, but the good outweighed the bad, and I have great memories to look back on. I also have 4 children and 11 grandchildren as a result of that union.

At this stage of my life, it would be nice to find a significant other, however, if I married, I would lose a lot of benefits, such as insurance and flight benefits, since my husband worked for an airline, and I'll never give up the flight benefits!!!!

I read an article in the AARP newspaper a while back, stating that so many older retired people who are in relationships, don't get married, because usually the "women" would lose benefits, such as pensions, insurance, etc.

I had worked outside the home in retail, but that was when my kids were in college, and after they were married, so I never had a career to actually build a "decent" pension of my own. However, I wouldn't lose my husband's pension if I married, but I WOULD lose his social security, and his is double what mine would be.

One of my daughters said jokingly, "the best situation would be like in "Terms of Endearment", where Jack Nickolson and Shirley MacLaine lived next door to each other."

This is my first time writing on the blog, but I have been following along and enjoying it, since September. I'm sure there are thousands more like me, following along, but not commenting.

RICHARD - Glad to hear you are doing okay! See what you started!!!

Monday, March 13, 2006 10:01:08 AM  
dreamweaver18 said...


Monday, March 13, 2006 11:19:07 AM  
Richard Roe- Senior Bachelor said...

Hi, I am close to having this week's Newsletter out. Tentative subjects will be an article from a reader about her trip to Costa Rica, some funny comments, and some talk about
Recognition (for us folks). RR

Monday, March 13, 2006 11:22:56 AM  
Vicki In Brazil said...

LOVE those LOVE quotes. Here are a few more:

LOVE isn't blind. It just only sees what really matters.

LOVE is when you look into someone's eyes and see their heart and then you see everything you want.

The best way to LOVE anything is to realize that it might be lost.

LOVE fails only when we fail to LOVE.

LOVE is like a piece of artwork, even the smallest piece can be so beautiful.

LOVE, like a river, will cut a new path whenever it meets an obstacle.

You know you're in LOVE when you see the world in her eyes, and her eyes everywhere in the world.

LOVE is like a mountain, sometimes hard to climb but when you get to the top the view is beautiful.

There's only one happiness in life, to LOVE and be LOVED.

To the world you are one person but to one person you may be the world.

On a lighter note:

LOVE can be like an open highway....just don't make my heart roadkill!!

If you think you've found your knight in shining armour be careful....he may just be a guy in tin foil!!

If you want me to fall for you then give me something to trip over.....and.....don't forget to catch me!!

One day your true LOVE will come....however, he may take a few wrong turns for a while because he's too stubborn to ask for directions!!!!


Monday, March 13, 2006 11:49:43 AM  
dreamweaver18 said...


Monday, March 13, 2006 12:15:53 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Sweet Merry/Mary!
I love B(onions) ha ha ha ....used to be a little diddy many many years ago...just could't resist!
Here's hoping your bunion surgery went ok, the things we gals will do just to have a dance with a 'prince' ;) you will be A ok for the August Moon, Cruise and Dance ;) Don't worry your pretty li'l head about counting ducks at this stage!
Luv senior bachelorette:)

Monday, March 13, 2006 1:11:10 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...


Monday, March 13, 2006 1:15:08 PM  
JanieGirl said...

VAL, Now I am singing. Glad no one can hear me. Dah,Dah,Dah,Dah,Dah,La, La, La, La. I'm singing LOVE IS A MANY SPLENDID THING AND LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND, LOVE MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND. La, La, La, La, La, La.
MERRY MARY, How is our Merry Mary? We are thinking of you. Please check in. I have not received any emails from you, too make me laugh in two days, but DREAMWEAVER, VAL is keeping us singing.
"May the Saints Be With You",
Lady Jayne

Monday, March 13, 2006 2:01:16 PM  
wanderlust said...

Love makes the world go 'round.

Much of what we do is because of love. For me that had unusual consequences:

I, too, am a widow.
My husband accepted a new job in another State. Since he was 11 years younger than me, I made the traditional wife's decision to follow him, even though his income was far less than mine. I gave up my very successful 25 year old practice and prepared to sell my home etc.. Totally unexpected he died, only 46 years old.
Since he was "between" jobs, he had no benefits. (we had not been made aware of this)
We had incurred large debts with my husband's moving. I could not
resume my practice, or work in my profession, since my State licence had expired.
Too young to qualify for any benefits, the next years were rather meager.

But having experienced love to its' fullest makes all worthwhile!

Monday, March 13, 2006 4:52:30 PM  
willemina said...

Your story is sad but I am so happy for you that you experienced love to its fullest...I was married for 33 years and never had that. I thought I knew the person I married but found out I really did not know him at all.

I can tell you that if and when I do look for someone to share my life with, I will be much more selective.

You are right on with the comment: "endearing qualities" may be "annoying habits" to others and sometimes what we first see as endearing qualities can soon become annoying habits, and then we know we have fallen out of love.

I had a wonderful weekend with Linda and Nancy in the Santa Cruz area and hope to post my thoughts and some pictures later tonight.

Monday, March 13, 2006 5:52:05 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

A beautiful lovestory and my hat off to you. Whilst reading your post I truly felt for you and wish you everything that is good. Health, Happiness, and may your Life continue to be one void of struggles. I won't elaborate but I too have eaten sometimes sweet and bitter rice and struggled to the point of not knowing if I will have enough to feed my children let alone myself! Thank you for sharing your story, how brave of you! You have truly loved and that in itself is a Gift passed down to your children and their children!

JANIEGIRL: you make me feel like dancin'...da da da da da da....may
The Luck O' The Irish shine down on all of us! Now I'm going back to watch Donald Trump's 'The Apprentice' see how the Toronto Lawyer is going to 'weather the storms tonight'


Monday, March 13, 2006 6:17:22 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

All the worldy riches, success, money $$$$$$$$$ is only a temporary means of fullfillment. The REAL DEAL that we truly benefit from and carry with us forever is THE POWER OF LOVE!

Kahlil Gibran
Lebanese Poet

Monday, March 13, 2006 8:19:40 PM  
JosieM said...

It really is better to have loved and lost. I met the love of my life when I was 15 years old. After we graduated from high school we went our separate ways. He became a pilot for Air Canada, and I married someone else, also a pilot for Air Canada. My husband died in an airplane crash, and my first love and I reconnected at our 40th high school reunion. The next year he also died in an airplane crash. Needless to say, I don't like flying (but I seem to like airline pilots). I have such wonderful memories of both of them.

I too would lose my benefits if I remarried. But I would like to have some living next door like Jack Nicholson in "Terms of Endearment". In fact, I would like having Jack Nicholson living next door... Come to think of it, wasn't he an astronaut... :-)


Monday, March 13, 2006 9:59:13 PM  
formerqueensgal said...

JOSIEM....How sad losing your two loves in airplane crashes. Just when you thought you found happiness again, it was taken away. Stay away from pilots. I wish you much luck and happiness!


Monday, March 13, 2006 10:58:40 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Top 'oer the mornin' to yoo!
Today is Purim...the happiest and most joyful energy of the year.
As previousely mentioned there are three of us renting the bungalow.
Last night there is a knock on my door and on opening I looked into a more than life-size purple and GREEN BARNEY, my upstairs neighbour's contribution to the Purim 'dress-up' party! The next door neighbour appeared as MOSES, so authentic, it gave me goosebumps!!!
Thinking GREEN this week too, what a joyous week it is with all the partying!
When Irish Eyes Are Smiling The Whole World Smiles With You :)
Here's to The Luck O' The Irish!
O' vally
p.s. As we RECOGNIZE the G-Dness within each of us, so we draw near with a true heart!

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 5:39:55 AM  
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Tuesday, March 14, 2006 7:56:17 AM  
CallmeLin said...

Hi Willy, your pictures of our weekend here in Santa Cruz and Monterey are really wonderful. We had such a great time and wish our time together could have been longer.

Now you know why I thought the Big Sur coast line was the road to Heaven when I was a little girl. I still think it is, how could heaven be any better.

The Coast bridge has always been one of my favorite spots, thank you for the Kodak momments, it brings back a lot of really great momories of my childhood.

Sadly I have to take Nancy back to the airport today and she flies back to Oregon. What a great time we have had. Once I see her off I will head up to the Sierras for a week up in the mountains.

Yesterday we went to Pebble Beach and had tea in the guest lounge overlooking the 18th hole. StillWater cove behind that, wow it doesn't get better than that. We did the 17 Mile Drive tour around the area and saw the Lone Cypress out on the rocks along with some pretty amazing homes.

Girlfriend time is the best.......Thanks to the ladies I have met here....Have a wonderful day everyone.......isn't life GRAND.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 8:13:06 AM  
REDTBIRD said...

So may Seniors are getting married and not registering it that way the can keep both there incomes. Smart People.
I like the idea that he has his house and I have mine and we meet in middle of Breakfast, lunch & Dinner. I always say my closets are full and they are, ha ha.
Love is blind but wouldn't it be nice to cuddle up with someone you really cared about. There are times when I really long for that.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 9:14:10 AM  
leslie said...

Hi Lin and Nancy So glad to hear you had a great time together. I've done that 17 mile route and saw the lone Cypress, too. It is a beautiful drive, but when (notice I say "when") you come up this way, I'll take you on some drives that you might just think surpass that scenery. Have a great time in the Sierras, Lin. Never been there - yet - so maybe you can play tour guide for me next time.

Looking for the newsletter today, Richard. When do we find out about all the special fun we're to have on the cruises?

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 9:22:21 AM  
dreamweaver18 said... the way, if I may DIGRESS for a moment, when I tried accessing the 1-800-FREE(411) Information Line....I got: "Well Hello You have Reached The Red Hot Ladies Line" ....(it could only happen to me):).... the MEN will love it!!!! So, for now I'll just have to keep paying for '411'....pity!

ITCHYFEET: 'we' don't know what the meaning of 'digress' and the 'blog' is????.......don't underestimate the intelligence of the WOMEN on this blog.....we ain't bimbos!!!!
May you also keep dancin' to the beat of your own drum :)

senior bachelorette:)

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 11:30:19 AM  
JanieGirl said...

Dear O'Val, Dreamweaver, Did you dial 1-800-373-3411. I called it and it was great. Maybe, like me, when you have to translate letters to numbers, you hit a wrong number. I do it all the time. I really don't like those vanity numbers, but I will put up with them, especially if it's free. Could be that it does not work in Canada. All the blarney stops after this Friday. Till then, "Erin Go Bragh". O'Lady Jayne

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 12:03:42 PM  
willemina said...

The European Commission has just announced an agreement whereby English will be the official language of the European Union rather than German, which was the other possibility.

As part of the negotiations, the British Government conceded that English spelling had some room for improvement and has accepted a 5-year phase-in plan that would become known as "Euro-English".

In the first year, "s" will replace the soft "c". Sertainly, this will make the sivil servants jump with joy.

The hard "c" will be dropped in favour of "k". This should klear up konfusion, and keyboards kan have one less letter.

There will be growing publik enthusiasm in the sekond year when the troublesome "ph" will be replaced with "f". This will make words like fotograf 20% shorter.

In the 3rd year, publik akseptanse of the new spelling kan be expekted to reach the stage where more komplikated changes are possible.

Governments will enkourage the removal of double letters which have always ben a deterent to akurate speling.

Also, al wil agre that the horibl mes of the silent "e" in the languag is disgrasful and it should go away.

By the 4th yer people wil be reseptiv to steps such as replasing "th" with "z" and "w" with "v".

During ze fifz yer, ze unesesary "o" kan be dropd from vords kontaining "ou" and after ziz fifz yer, ve vill hav a reil sensibl riten styl.

Zer vil be no mor trubl or difikultis and evrivun vil find it ezi tu understand ech oza. Ze drem of a united urop vil finali kum tru.

Und efter ze fifz yer, ve vil al be speking German like zey vunted in ze forst plas.

If zis mad yu smil,

pleas pas on to oza pepl.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 5:30:54 PM  
wanderlust said...

Frau Willhamine,
Ist es schon der Erste April?

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 6:40:37 PM  
willemina said...

Are you saying that you would like to visit California April 1st?
Sorry, my Deutsch is not good...but I'm trying :)

Tschuss! Mach's gut!

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 8:32:03 PM  
wanderlust said...

9,9 (nein,nein) Willy,
I asked if it is already the first of April.
Love it!!
Ja, Machs' gut!
I'll catch you on your blog.

Tuesday, March 14, 2006 11:19:18 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

WONDERLUST: Guten Tag...Wie Getz? I am inclined to want to type 'WUNDERLUST'...I had a hunch you spoke German. Is your other 'screen name' DROMA(DR.OMA)? and is the question 'Wie Getz?' a casual term for 'how are you?' or 'what's happening?' I used to speak a little German many years ago in South Africa, friends lived in Windhoek South West Africa and used to visit quite often. I find all the different languages interesting. My Parents spoke Yiddish and they understood German very well and vice versa.

JANIEGIRL: I will try the number you. I must have turned the colour purple when it happened :)

I am slowly turning GREEN :) and not with envy but in anticipation of the FUN St. Patrick's Holiday Parade etc.
carpe diem

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 5:46:12 AM  
JanieGirl said...

GREAT NEWS LETTER, LORI, Your story is very interesting and fun to read. I love George Carlin!! He is one of the very best!!
Happy St. Patrick's Day to my three sons, the Baudendistel Boys. I never let them forget that they are are a wee bit over 1/2 Irish, even with the long last German name. WHERE OR WHERE IS OUR MERRY MARY!!!------Lady Jayne

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 9:09:54 AM  
KarenJW said...

Hello Richard!

I just read the Newsletter, and I think it was, by far, the best one yet! Lori's very touching and thought provoking story of her trip to Costa Rica had me spellbound; I could see everything she spoke of; truly fascinating!

Thanks for reminding us of how men just have it the best! But being a woman is a special thing, and I don't think many of us would change if we could.

I have always loved George Carlin's take on life. He sees the humor in our lives that reflects from the people we are. What a funny guy!

The whole newsletter was great and it will have me smiling all day!

I hope you're feeling well and recovering quickly. Spring will soon be here and I'm getting Spring Fever. I hope everyone has a fun and happy St. Patrick's Day! My daughter is named Erin, so we like to pretend we're Irish for the day! Erin Go Bragh!


P.S.- Does anyone else enjoy the best John Wayne movie ever made(to me), The Quiet Man? I'm sure you'll find it on somewhere this weekend!

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 9:15:19 AM  
wanderlust said...

Wie geht es? = Wie gehts'?
How does it go?= How are you?
I noticed that Yiddish sounds a lot like Bavarian, the "Hill Billy"
German dialect.
Once saw on TV a show where Jaine Seymour spoke Bavarian, and I understood it completely. Than it turned out to be Yiddish!
At the Baltic Sea coast they speak a dialect that is much like old English. That is why Willy's EURO- ENGLISH is so amusing to me.
BTW, my name is wAnderlust, I LIKE TO wander = hiking. Lust ~ like to; but LUST IS LUST in both languages. Lustig = funny, enjoyable.
Love to read about the roots of a word. I used to teach Latin, it helps to understand many words.
Hope I did not wear out my welcome with this.
Happy Hump Day! (now that is totally American)

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 9:38:40 AM  
M.M.Corbett said...

Hi Richard, I would like to answer the question you asked Debbie. " Is Love Blind"? Basing my major premise on the fact that we were created in the image and likeness of God and the nature of God is Love. I believe that because of this love has the power to take only one direction and that is down the path of goodness. This alone is proof that it has direction and influence on one's behavior. I believe that love is an attitude of the mind. It is our attitudes that contain all our beliefs and create perspective on how we view things. Nothing that is blind has clear perspective. Love's perspective creates beauty, life, and is not selfish.
My secondary premise is " As a man thinketh so he or she is". So if we believe we are loving people our behavior will respond likewise. Love is gentle, kind and full of a creative power that causes the powerless to become like their creator. We can control the velosity of it with a transformed mind.
On the other hand, "lust" has no vision or integrety. It only seeks to satisfy a selfish need. It causes others to stumble into darkness just to have control over them. It cannot be controled and it destroys character.
Romantic Love is a product of love in it's true nature. It has the blessing of God and can be enjoyed to a greater extent than lust because there is no guilt involved.
What do you think of this view? M.M. Corbett

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 11:35:47 AM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Hello RR!
Watched the 'Amazing Race last night and the Senior Couple married for 40 years are still in the race, says something for our peer group! For sure we do not get near enough recognition, and we can put the 20 & 30 year olds 'in the shade' for spunkiness and craziness :)

Very entertaining story from Lori, is that THE 'African Queen' Lori....the I think you are the perfect match for Richard Lori? :)
George Carlin is THE MAN...I love to watch his facial expressions, a natural 'no flies on him' kinda guy

WANDERLUST: I got a kick out of the 'Hill Billy' term :)for Yiddish
which is a fascinating language, Afrikaans which as you know is spoken in South Africa, Cape Town in particular is also a 'Hill Billy' language, a far cry from Dutch spoken in Holland! I enjoy speaking Afrikaans here as it is a novelty and convenient if I choose not to 'be heard' so to speak :)

carpe diem
senior bachelorette:)

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 11:55:23 AM  
dreamweaver18 said...

'WILLY': your 'EURO-ENGLISH' is a tonic to
Du Bist Ein Ganz Schone Fraulein ;)
Au Wie De Zein ....:)
von 'senior bachelorette' :)
p.s. my German is so totally non-existant, what you don't use you lose ;)

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 1:01:27 PM  
JosieM said...

M.M I like your definition of love. Here is another:
St Paul to the Corinthians 13: 4-8 8, 13 Love is patient and kind, it is never jealous, love is never boastful or conceited, it is never rude or selfish, it does not take offence, nor is it resentful. Love takes no pleasure in others’ sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end. There are three things that last, faith, hope and love and the greatest of these is love

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 1:11:29 PM  
leslie said...

Love is also a choice.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 2:28:18 PM  
willemina said...

I love the 9,9! That was funny and I could read it!

One of my regrets in life is that I don't speak another language. My parents are both from Holland and I can understand some but I think it's a shame that I never learned Dutch! They made it too easy for me not to learn because everyone speaks English. I also found that to be true when I was living in Germany.
Most children in the US learn children took German in High School because we lived in Deutschland for a few years.
I have recently signed up for a beginners Spanish class and find it's harder than I thought it would be. But I am enjoying it.

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 3:05:13 PM  
JoeInMB said...

Hello Ladies,

I've been away far too long- sorry about that. Very busy with some interesting projects I'll share with you shortly.

Love this subject on love. I have my own "love is blind story." I was all of 21 and, of course, I knew everything there was to know. I fell in love with a beautiful young woman from Sri Lanka who was staying in Tucson with some family friends. Sharmila's family had met the Soulens when Gary Soulen was stationed as the Deputy Ambassador to Sri Lanka in the mid-60's. When Sharmila wanted to go to university in the US (following an old boyfriend who was going to college in North Carolina) her very wise parents said, you may go to the US but only if you stay with the Soulens. So off to Tucson she went- at least Arizona was closer to North Carolina than Sri Lanka. One of my best friends and study buddies in Tucson (I was a senior in high school) had parents both from Sri Lanka. His dad was the head of the Chemistry department at the University of Arizona. Not being that many Sri Lankans in Tucson in the early 70's, they all managed to find themselves! One night, our study group was at my friend's house, Sharmila was there and zing, bam, boom, yours truly fell heads over heels in love with this amazing woman. Beautiful, elegant, Queen's English accent, bridge player and smart as a whip. What was I to do but fall blindly in love.

To make the long story short, she finished school and went to work in London. We corresponded. Absence now making the heart grow fonder. Two visits by me to London (remember Peoples Express?!) Popped the question in St. James Park. Everybody came back to Tucson and we got marrried.

I won't bore you with the details on why it didn't work out- love was very blind. We were the best of friends afterwards (which is what we should have stayed at all along) and she was a part of our family even after the divorce. In a word, I think the problem was cultural. She was not American and I was not Sri Lankan- east meets west and we couldn't meet. But I was blind to it. I asked my mother several years later, why she didn't stop me from making a very obvious mistake. Her very wise answer- "You wouldn't have listened to me."

I think we just have to go through life and make such mistakes and hope and pray we don't cause too much damage along the way. We did not have children to complicate things. And I stayed single for about another ten years before trying it again with Nancy. I was lot wiser and asked many questions.

Have seen Richard several times since his return. Have you ever seen the caged lion at the zoo who wants to get out? Richard has that look in his eyes!

Best to all.


Wednesday, March 15, 2006 3:52:24 PM  
M.M.Corbett said...

Hey Josiem, That's what I call "getting real, girl". M.M.Corbett

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 4:07:17 PM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Hello RRRRRoe, Joe & Co.
Oh m' goodness how nice to see you Joe, WOW it is the topic of LOVE that brought you back..Hallelujah;)
Grrr to the 'lion in the cage' look in our leading man's eyes :)
I can just imagine!
In retrospect I find it quite incredible when reflecting or better still recapitulate over past 'near misses' or 'close calls' (coulda been married to that one) It truly is Beshert(Destiny) when you meet that ONE special person that just 'lights your fire within' Call it that Badaboo Badabing thing :)
When A Woman Is In Love, It's A Woman's World, The Man Is Then In Her World, She Becomes The Creator
(of all that is)
Look at the shrine dedicated to a Woman....The TAJ MAHAL was built in the name of LOVE, dedicated to The Love of His Life! So many Temples etc. in ancient times constructed purely in the name of LOVE. THE poetry of ALL TIME written by King Solomon, erotic and sensual. Kahlil Gibran the Lebanese Poet who dedicated a particular poem called LOVE to honour his Beloved Almitra and so on.....

senior bachelorette:)

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 7:03:27 PM  
willemina said...

After a long night of making love, he notices a photo of another man on her nightstand by the bed.

He begins to worry. Is this your husband?" he nervously asks.

No, silly," she replies, snuggling up to him."Your boyfriend, then?" he continues.

"No, not at all," she says, nibbling away at his ear.

"Is it your dad or your brother?" he inquires, hoping to be reassured.

"No, no, no!!!" she answers.

"Well, who in the hell is he, then!!! ???" he demands.

"That's me before the surgery."

Goodnight everyone

Wednesday, March 15, 2006 9:11:07 PM  
angiefrom neworleans former italianmistletoepopcor said...

Hello Richard and all,

This topic of LOVE is a great one that I think we could talk about forever, and hopefully through the wisdom of our years, gain some insights.

RICHARD, hope you are feeling better and better I can see that caged look on your face that Joe described.

JOSIEM, thank you for quoting this definition of love from St. Paul, it is so meaningful and when we really delve into the message so beautiful and healthy. I just typed it and enlarged it to put on my frig.

WILLEMINA, that was so funny! It made me LOL!

Hi JOEINMB you always have such poignant words to add. Yes, your mother was right you would not have listened. I believe that we all must go through situations on our own to really discover what will work for us. It is amazing that when one is not intimately involved with a situation how much easier it is to see the drawbacks. I was married at an early age convinced to my friends disagreement, that I could change the person I married..not! We were married for 25 years had three wonderful, beautiful daughters. We remain distant friends and respectful of our family. After that I was involved with a man who I thought was the love of my life and believed that we would be together for the long haul. We were the couple that everyone envied in public, what a match! Then, without going into all the details, he up and left with only a phone call while he was driving out of town. To this day and after over 20 years of being friends and sharing intimate times, I have not heard a word from him and neither has many of our friends. We do know that he is ok and working, and he did call a mutal friend to ask if I was ok after Katrina. Too many details to mention but one of the points that I want to make here is that he had not finished his business with his wife and as time goes by, I am learning that he was not truthful. So, my add here is the importance of truth, and trust. With that I am seeking advice and have a question to pose...what is the difference between a healthy and an unhealthy relationship with an ex and what are the signs in that regard that we should pay attention to and not pursue the relationship?


Thursday, March 16, 2006 7:56:03 AM  
JosieM said...

Angie, you must have been in such sadness to lose a good friend/lover like that, without a word as to why. And the problem is, when those things happen, we blame ourselves. We ask why; what did we do? After so many years we often have difficulty letting it go. There is a poem I often think of:

The Moving Finger writes; and, having writ,
Moves on: nor all your Piety nor Wit
Shall lure it back to cancel half a Line,
Nor all your Tears wash out a Word of it

Omar Khayyam

Basically it says that we cannot undo the hurtful things we do, but also we have to let go of the hurtful things that have been done to us. I think old relationships can sometimes be unhealthy and your gut instinct will tell you when to let go. I have an ex who still calls me from time to time and our conversation goes back to the old "tape loop" of things that were unhealthy when we were together. I felt so much better when I walked away from it completely.

You sound like a nice person, Angie, and for all of us to find the next "love of our lives" we all have to look forward and not back.

Love - what an interesting subject. I think we all still have so much to learn about it.


Thursday, March 16, 2006 9:34:12 AM  
Claudia in Taos said...

Just came online to see how things were going for you...and I see stuff about hospitals, etal. What happened? You know some of us are out of touch a bit.
Since talk of you is about recovery.... I am listening to a great book that you might enjoy.
A New Earth... by Eckhardt Tolle. It is a fascinating work.
Hope to hear more details...
Blessings, Claudia

Thursday, March 16, 2006 10:07:02 AM  
Claudia in Taos said...

Just came online to see how things were going for you...and I see stuff about hospitals, etal. What happened? You know some of us are out of touch a bit.
Since talk of you is about recovery.... I am listening to a great book that you might enjoy.
A New Earth... by Eckhardt Tolle. It is a fascinating work.
Hope to hear more details...
Blessings, Claudia

Thursday, March 16, 2006 10:07:31 AM  
dreamweaver18 said...

Hello RROE, Joe & Co!

Referring to the 'Temple Of Love'
THE TAJ MAHAL in India. I have been told that it is built entirely of MARBLE and glows only in the MOONLIGHT as it reflects the light of the MOON :) I hear it is pure magic to see!

"You're nobody 'till somebody loves you"......Mills Brothers

senior bachelorette:)

Thursday, March 16, 2006 12:08:28 PM  
angiefrom neworleans former italianmistletoepopcor said...

JOSIEM, thank you for your nice words. I am basically an optimistic fun, happy and nice not perfect person who believes that everything happens for a good reason. Yes, you are right, one must move on and use the past as a learning and barometer for what is acceptable for the future.. at this time in life our barometers can go on high alert! I have to say that all in all I feel very blessed with an amazing support group of family and friends. This may sound a little weird, but finding a stray dog and getting involved with the Senior Bachelor endeavor after the Oprah show, reinforced and reinvigorated my sense of self, it was like coming up for fresh air and new beginnings. Thanks again Richard!

Thursday, March 16, 2006 12:15:19 PM  
KarenJW said...

Hello Angie from New Orleans!

I hope things are going well for you since you returned home.
I was pondering the question you posed, about reconnecting with exes in our lives; I think we all at some time think it would be okay to try and revive a relationship. We think it will somehow be different than it was before, and somehow gloriously new, but I think what we are hoping for is the dream that we can be together and things will be great. It makes us forget the reasons there was a breakup in the first place; we think that something has changed this person and now they will appreciate and treasure us.

I believe we, as women, are vulnerable to that notion, and try to give the benefit of the doubt out of kindness and hopefulness.
As I mature though, I think we should not return to what can quickly become the same as it was the first time. I've promised myself to never look backward. Past lovers can be friends, but I don't think you can recapture a dream. And in going back, you take yourself out of the picture of finding someone who will love and cherish you. I'd rather be alone and waiting, than plunge back into what I already know did'nt work.
Thanks for your comments, I enjoy hearing from you.


Thursday, March 16, 2006 1:42:38 PM  
angiefrom neworleans former italianmistletoepopcor said...

Hello back Karenjw!

Oh my gosh, I think that my question may not have been clear. I have no intention of re-kindling anything with an ex. I was however, curious about what our expectations should be if we get involved with a new person and they still have interactions with their ex. What amount or quality of interaction on their part is healthy and what is not?


Thursday, March 16, 2006 2:22:32 PM  
KarenJW said...

Hey there Angie, me again.

Okay I'll back up and try again. I personally, like to trust people. Until they give me a reason not to trust them. I believe that people can have good relationships with their exes, especially if children are involved. I get along reasonably well with my daughter's father, because I choose to, for her sake. So I think it is possible for it to happen. Now that doesn't mean I turn a blind eye in a relationship. If I see them communicating over things like the kids' schooling, and their needs, is one thing. But I think you can tell if there is too much inappropriate interaction, and lots of excuses, I'd be suspicious. In any case, communicating your thoughts and fears, in an honest and open way,should either alleviate your fears or confirm them, depending on what answers you get.

I do think it's great, though, when two people can remember what they had, and can be civil and even friendly towards each other. Richard's situation is a great example. There's nothing wrong with being friendly towards the people who have been in your past, and with whom you share memories or children. Or maybe I'm just an eternal optimist!


Thursday, March 16, 2006 2:52:51 PM  
angiefrom neworleans former italianmistletoepopcor said...

thanks Karenjw, my thoughts are on those same lines and I believe in family and like you am an optomist. Richard is the good example. My ex husband and I pretty much operate that same way. At this stage there are exes everywhere it seems with anyone we get involved with, but hopefully a healthy sever.


Thursday, March 16, 2006 3:28:07 PM  

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