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Promoting Romance, Adventure and Recognition for People of All Ages! )
August 7, 2007
For you in this issue:
  • Cruise Survey
  • Senior Bachelor Marriages- Four and Counting!
  • Getting out there!
  • Dear Ladies and Gentlemen,

    No, not my fifth marriage, but another great love story from a follower of the Senior Bachelor "adventure." I was preparing a very different Newsletter and boom, this came along, and "scooped" me.

    From Jennifer:

    Richard,

    I emailed you about my engagement last November to a man I met through PerfectMatch and your encouragement to try it for a few months.

    Well, you have another wedding story to tell! I had made the trek to your Chicago Senior Bachelor event, submitted my tape to you, and met you there along with dozens of great women. It was so much fun that I decided to keep my PerfectMatch membership going another six months. You see, I had done the profile, had received a few matches up to that point, but never contacted any of them or even put my photo on-line. At your party in Chicago, I realized it was time to venture out as I had been divorced for ten years, raised three boys, with the last one now in college.

    I kept checking for my perfect match, but still didn't email any of them until May, 2006, when my future husband and I started writing. Terry had already deleted me because I didn't have my photo on-line and I had said very little in my description. But I liked what I read about him and went ahead and sent the initial email. We started emailing all the time and he made a date to meet up in Traverse City for the Cherry Festival. What a perfect first date, Terry had arrived early, checked out where the Blue Angels were performing over the beach and bay, found food places and somewhere to sit before I even arrived. He was thrilled because he got to watch the Blue Angels (he's a Colonel in the Air Force with many years as a flight surgeon), meet me, and then we talked for hours! He had told all the other women he emailed on PerfectMatch that he would not have a second date with any of them until he met most of them.

    Well, after that first date, Terry told me "I had ruined it for him", that he couldn't go out with anyone else. He drove two hours north to visit me every week-end for the next two months before I ever went to his hometown. What a terrific guy in so many ways, intelligent, kind, playful, musical, and hard working with great kids. My three boys liked him immediately!

    In November of 2006, I was visiting my professional basketball player middle son in Aalst, Belgium for two weeks. Terry came over for the last week and at one of my son's games there, he asked me to marry him! And had brought a ring with him all that way from the US! It was very romantic for us and my son told me "Mom, you need to seal the deal!" So, on June 23, 2007 with the help of Terry's minister and our children, we were married at Terry's home. Then we all drove north to my house for the reception on the beach with all the friends and relatives. It was the most perfect night of the summer so far. We both are very grateful to have each other and are enjoying each moment as it comes along.

    (Terry and Jennifer's Wedding)

    Richard, please continue to do the work you are doing. Your goal to Promote Romance & Adventure for People 50 and Over has inspired many people. Had you not appeared on The Oprah Winfrey Show and in People Magazine, I'm sure I would be single today and not have met such a wonderful man. Keep up the good work!!!

    If I could give any advice, it would be to be yourself, to love life, be generous, be thankful, and be willing to meet new people. Best of wishes to all of you,

    Jennifer

    Wow, what a great story. This really makes me feel good. I must admit, that on more than one occasion since I had to return from Chile last year in the second month of my trip around the world as a result of having prostate cancer, I have thought about wrapping up the whole Senior Bachelor "mission." After all, this started out as my search for a life partner, and that came to an abrupt halt. Since my operation, I have concentrated on getting healthy, and my search for a life partner had to be put on hold. And that's the way it has been for the last 1 1/2 years.

    I am not ready to pronounce the SB mission as finished. It seems there is a new mission, not one man's search, but a mission to help others, by encouraging people to get out of the house, join organizations, by arranging cruises, tours, and try on- line dating, etc.

    Jennifer's story really is a wonderful example of what could happen to you. She really put herself out there, and gave herself a chance to get lucky. She sent in her tape, went to the Crazy Hat party in Chicago (she is third from the left in the photo below!), and persisted with PerfectMatch, and you see the results above.

    (Jennifer at the Crazy Hat Party- Third from Left)

    Joe Franklin, the Business Manager for Senior Bachelor, is very familiar with dating services, having met his wife Nancy that way!!! Joe carefully researched all of the on-line dating companies and determined that PerfectMatch was best for our group.

    We all have been around long enough to know that there is no guarantee that joining a dating service, or getting fixed up, or joining organizations, will result in anything. My point is, if you do nothing, you can be sure you will stay single, and miss out on a lot of fun activities. You have to give yourself a chance!!!

    An example is cruises. Many people write to me and ask.....What is the ratio of men to women in our group? The ratio on cruises in general is about 80% women, due to the fact that most men get "bored" on cruises (I don't!!!) and most women love the fact that they don't have to make a bed, do any cleaning or cooking, or any kind of work for the duration of the cruise. And many women do not go on the cruises when they find out that there will be more women than men. If you recall in a recent Newsletter, Peggy from Pennsylvania, went on the Panama Canal cruise this past January, and she met a great man who happened to be on the cruise with his family!! Peggy gave herself a chance and she's engaged to be married! (See her story below.)

    This seems to be my new mission. To encourage YOU to do whatever you can to meet new people. I understand that many people cannot afford the time or maybe the resources to go on cruises or tours. However, there are numerous organizations you can join in your area, or do volunteer work, and meet new people. Write me and tell me about what you are doing and I'll share it with everyone in the newsletters. If you can afford 15 minutes to take the Free Compatability Test with PerfectMatch- click here - and if you like the result, spend about $20 a month for at least 3 months. You are giving yourself a chance.

    There have been 5 marriages as a result of women getting involved with the activities we have put together and from trying PerfectMatch. It's worked for our group, but please have reasonable expectations.

    Future Newsletters:

    1) I will have the results of the recent cruise survey. Bottom line, there will be a cruise with Holland America to the Eastern Caribbean from January 5-12, 2008. Click here for more information.

    2) Tours to Italy in 2008


    Cruise Survey

    *** This is a repeat of a previous survey about future Senior Bachelor Cruises. If you did not respond to this before, please take a few minutes and respond.***

    Below is information on 2 possible Senior Bachelor cruises. This is simply a survey to see if we have enough people for a group. You do not have to make any kind of a commitment right now, but if you think you might be interested in either of the 2 cruises below, please hit Reply and indicate which cruise you might be interested in.

    EASTERN CARIBBEAN FT LAUDERDALE TO FT LAUDERDALE
    FROM: Fort Lauderdale, Florida TO: Fort Lauderdale, Florida
    SAILING DATE: January 5, 2008
    SHIP: ms Zuiderdam

    Cabin Prices:

    Inside $749-769

    Outside $849-869

    Balcony $1049-1099

    Click here for more information.

    WESTERN CARIBBEAN TAMPA TO TAMPA
    FROM: Tampa, Florida TO: Tampa, Florida
    SAILING DATE: January 6, 2008
    SHIP: ms Veendam

    Cabin Prices

    Inside $749-779

    Outside $849-899

    Balcony $1499-1559

    Click here for more information.

    Senior Bachelor Marriages- Four and Counting!

    I am most pleased to announce an engagement. No, not mine, but of a couple that met on the Senior Bachelor Panama Canal cruise in January of this year!!

    Following is Peggy's story.

    Romance at Sea:

    The Panama Canal Cruise on Crystal Cruises in January was my second Senior Bachelor cruise. My friend Donna encouraged me to go on each cruise, and I will be forever grateful to her because I met Vic.

    Vic and I met on Day 2 of the cruise at a "singles" function sponsored by the Captain. Vic introduced himself and told me he was traveling with his family group of twelve, including three daughters, their spouses, three grandchildren and cousin and friend. I introduced myself as Peggy from Pennsylvania and we had a delightful conversation. The next day I received a note in my stateroom from Vic inviting me to lunch or High Tea. It seems he searched the entire passenger list to find a "Peggy from Pennsylvania" and had the front desk deliver the invitation to me. His granddaughter later said, "I was having a drink with Grandpa and he spots this woman across the room and dropped me like a hot potato!"

    Vic is a widower and I have been divorced for a very long time. Meeting the right person is more about being comfortable as a single person and being open to possibilities that you may have overlooked in the past.

    Managing a ship romance with early and late dinner schedules created a challenge. However, we managed to join each other's group for dinner several times. Warm tropical breezes, fine wine and lengthy conversations on the verandah created a memorable experience.

    We decided if we could manage a romance with different dinner seatings on board Crystal, we could certainly manage a long-distance relationship. Over the next several months, I visited Vic at his home in Naples, Florida, several times, and our relationship progressed. He visited me in Pennsylvania and met my family. On May 31, I visited him at his Connecticut home and we selected a beautiful engagement ring from Tiffany's. He pre-selected five rings and together we chose a round diamond, Tiffany setting in platinum. Tiffany's served champagne to celebrate our engagement!

    We both feel blessed to have found each other and our planning to marry later this year.

    Some fun Cruise Photos:

    This is a photo we took while waiting for dinner. Peggy is sitting at the far left. No wonder she caught Vic's eye!

    Going through the Panama Canal Locks.

    Mixing it up with other eligible men on the ship!

    For more cruise photos, click here!

    Getting out there!

    Dear Newsletter Readers,

    To my knowledge, there have been at least 4 marriages that have resulted from women visiting www.seniorbachelor.com and signing up for the Free Compatibility Profile with Perfectmatch.com, and then signing up for their dating service for a few months. There have been many many dates and relationships formed by using the service.

    I love to relate the story above because it DOES HAPPEN, and IT COULD HAPPEN TO YOU. But you have to do something to put yourself in a position to meet other people. As you read above, Peggy and Vic met on one of the cruises I organized. Peggy was part of the Senior Bachelor group, Vic was not. I recognize many people cannot afford the time nor the money to go on a cruise, or one of my tours in Italy. However I do believe most of the people reading this Newsletter can afford about $20 a month or so for a few months on Perfect match.com. Click here to take the free Perfect Match profile. (Full disclosure: I do receive a small fee for people who sign up for Perfectmatch. In turn, I use these funds to pay for the website and publishing of the Newsletters) I do understand that online dating does not appeal to everybody. Following are some other ways.

    First....You need to get out of the house!!!!! If you are looking for a companion of the opposite sex, you will not find your man or lady by sitting home. Walking is free. Joining a local religious organization is free. Joining a local center or organization where people 50+ spend time is free. How about volunteering for a worthy cause where you might meet someone who feels the same way as you do. Joining a gym is a great way to get in better shape, and to meet like- minded people. If you can afford the membership fee, go for it!!!

    The point is......you must be pro-active!!! I know, believe me I know, it is easy to just say....the heck with it, I'm never going to find a person to spend the rest of my life with. Why should I bother making any effort?

    Let's be realistic. Aging presents enormous challenges!! It is easy to get the blues. It's hard meeting new friends, and getting out of our regular routine. Well, you can be certain, that if you truly would like to have a new man or a woman in your life, you need to get off your butt and do your part to make something happen.

    Many women have missed out on some great times on the cruises because they feel the ratio of women to men is not good. It is true our groups have more women than men, but the ships typically hold THOUSANDS of other passengers, and, of course, some of them are eligible men. In fact on the Panama Canal cruise, our group had 16 ladies and two of them found Romance!!! On board, I do all I can to arrange single functions, encourage our group to go the disco, etc. And the other people we meet at these events have eligible friends at home whom they talk about. But as I have been writing, ultimately it is up to YOU to be pro-active!!!

    I will continue to do all I can to Promote Romance & Adventure For People Fifty and Over.

    P.S. A Heads Up. In an upcoming Newsletter, I will have a survey about 2 possible cruises in 2008. One to the Caribbean in January and another to Alaska in July.

    Warmest regards,

    Richard Roe
    Senior Bachelor

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